Let’s hear it for the boys!

OK, a few days ago, I read this article on Yahoo when I was signing in to check my email. (No, I do not go around reading dating sites all day long, but the idea of man-speak struck me as interesting, because, well it’s true!) I grew up with a twin brother; I work with a lot of guys and sometimes spend time trying to figure out what they mean (or if I’ve made them mad, if they’re sad, etc.).

So let’s take a look at some of the writer’s points together.

• “What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you… they just do it using their own language. Men, in fact, sometimes don’t use words at all when they are communicating with you.” I think this is true. My dad makes sure he tells me he loves me, but he also makes sure to show it: filling my car up with gas, buying me new tires, doing odd jobs around my place.

• “ He teases you about things like how clumsy you are or about how you put smiley faces in every one of your emails. What he’s really telling you when he does this is that he really likes you a lot. Remember that men are just giant boys… we tease the ones we love and ignore the ones we don’t.” Do guys ever grow up? Ever?

• “A man tells you he needs his space. So what does this mean to you? It means that you need to ignore him and not call him. Men love the chase. By not calling him, he’ll start calling you and wondering what happened.” So many women I know need to understand the idea of space. But that’s hard for us, guys. If we really like you and you say this to us, we think you don’t like us. And we get a little crazy and want to make sure you don’t forget our pretty faces. Hence the calls, emails, and IMs.

• “A man says that he really wants you to meet his parents. What does this mean in man talk? He’s telling you that you are his girlfriend, and that he is ready to take it to the next level by getting you involved with his family. This brings us right to the next bit of man talk.” This cannot be applied universally. I once met a guy’s parents on a first date thing. He actually took me to a huge family get-together dinner on a first date. Needless to say, this did not bode well or last very long. It was awful!

• “You have plans with him on a Sunday, and you find out that he passed up floor seats to his favorite basketball team to keep those plans with you. What does that tell you in man talk? It tells you that he’s hooked… and that you are his girlfriend.” Aw, that’s sweet. But I would have settled for a ticket to the game, too. I like basketball. And seriously, don’t spend ALL your time with me! And seriously, what happened with just having the SRD [serious relationship discussion] and confirming if you are/aren’t gf/bf?

OK, enough poking fun at guys! I really do think you’re great and applaud this writer for making an attempt to help women understand the difference between women and men. Because we are! (Please don’t tell to go read Wild at Heart and Captivating. I don’t want to right now! 🙂 Sound off in the comments!